What to do when family members or friends attack you?

I know this is a touchy subject for everyone, myself included. However, I wanted to address it because I have had so many of these instances happen to me.

If the attack was physical, then get help immediately. Call your local police agency and press charges if you can. Do not tolerate any sort of physical attack. Look into restraining orders and any other court sponsored document that will help leave an audit trail for any future events that may happen. Your safety must come first!

In my case the attack was verbal. The person that attacked me is definitely too much of a coward to attempt a physical confrontation.

For any verbal or emotional attack

Evaluate if it is an ongoing pattern or a one time occurrence. Most often and unfortunately, it is a pattern. This is how you deal with an ongoing pattern of attacks.

The first thing you have to do is realize who you are dealing with. In my case I was dealing with a person that has a history of mental disorder, a person that has never been really happy in their life, a person that pretends to be a nice person but isn't, and a person that is actually involved in a cult. Really a deeply disturbed and terrible person that is also a compulsive liar. It is very sad actually.

Taking all of this into perspective you can see that there isn't any reasoning with a person like this.

The second thing you should recognize is that the person is probably lashing out at you because they feel inadequate and empty in their own life. They want to tear you down to make themselves feel better. They are probably jealous of your accomplishments and they want to hurt you. You don't have to take that or accept it.

The third thing you have to register is the fact that your peace of mind is worth avoiding that person in the future (if possible). Remember, you should forgive them, but you don't have to subject yourself to that type of behavior again. I know it will be hard to forgive them, but you should. Understand that you don't have to be treated this way.

The fourth thing to do is just move on with your life. Understand that some people are beyond help for us mere mortals. You should avoid that person, and pray for them. Pray that they don't lash out at anyone and pray that God will help them with their demons. Understand that only Almighty God can help them, and only if they allow it.

You can still love the person, even if it will be hard, but love them from a distance. Allow them to continue in their sad life and you go on living yours. No one deserves to be abused for any reason.

My advice to everyone is to surround yourself with positive people and people that add good things to your life. Family or friend it doesn't matter. You want people that build you up, and not try to tear you down. You want enrichment, peace, and harmony. You don't want or need drama. Thank you friends and may God bless you always.

CHARLIE MIKE :-)

Your friend
Justin M.

Let me know in the comments about similar experiences you have had in your life.